What's My But?

I know what half of you are thinking.  "He spelled 'butt' incorrectly." and the other half of you are wondering why I didn't put 'but' in quotes.  I will tell you why...because I wanted it to read this way and it's my blog.  Any way, the title and the post are in reference to a How I Met Your Mother episode called "Little Boys".  You're even more curious now, right?  Read on...

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In the episode, the group discusses how we describe people we are setting friends up with.

For example, "You have to meet my friend, Bob.  He's super nice, good looking, and loves to cook."

The person I am speaking to might be wondering what's wrong with the guy.  Why is he single still?

What's his "but"?

"You have to meet my friend, Bob.  He's super nice, good looking, and loves to cook...but he is broke and lazy."

Get it?  There is always a "but".

So I set out to figure out what my "but" was.  I asked my closest friends and wife to describe me like they were setting me up with a friend.  After they spewed out a bunch of really nice things, I asked "What's my but?"  I, of course, had to explain it to some of them, but I got some interesting answers.

It's pretty refreshing to know what my buts are and it gives me spots to improve.  So here is me...

'He's really nice, knows his booze, and is always good for a laugh BUT he will be real and not sugarcoat shit."

"He's a witty guy with a great sense of humor, and will always argue for what he believes is right.  He's a great conversationalist while enjoying a craft beer or good wine.  He's a great entertainer and host to his friends BUT he can have a short temper if someone is being dumb and he has two kids so you have to be cool with that."

"The guy is great for both, a fun night out; as an enthusiast of good booze, or a night in; with extensive film, comic, and movie knowledge BUT he's way too honest."

"He has a great dad bod and a wicked beard.  He has a really great sense of humor and one of the biggest hearts I've ever known BUT sometimes he can be grumpy and stubborn."

"He has amazing blue eyes, a great smile, and strong arms.  He is passionate, kind, and friendly.  He is an amazing father and smart BUT he doesn't handle stupidity well, is strong-willed, and thinks he's always right."

"He's the kind of guy to have a story for anything.  No seriously, he has some pretty cool/interesting stories about whatever is on your mind.  He is an animal lover and has two awesome sons BUT if you can't handle my anger management style, you won't handle his."

Do you see a pattern?  I do.  In fact, it's a known issue for me.  I have often struggled with biting my tongue, but at 37, I just don't care.  You either like me or you don't.  Unless you're a client.  Then I will be mostly nice.

So what's your "but"?